The Love Buffet

We spend so much time dreaming of Love or agonizing over it. What woud we have if we took that away? Maybe just a little more quality time.

Girl meets boy. They get together. It doesn't work out. Bounce back.
         I've been fed the usual fairy tales, dreamed of that Prince Charming. But when perceptions change, that's when you realize that you're growing up. And that's a good thing.
          Thanks to lectures on feminism, I'm through with the double standards of society. I'm not here though, to start a male- bashing campaign. It's just that when I go for someone, I don't want it to be the traditional, ordinary way. And if it doesn't work out- well, it's not the end of the world.
            The way I see it, love is like a buffet table. You look around, take what looks interesting, try it out and on your second round you already know what you want. What's good and what's not. But this is what I'm vexed about. Sometimes we keep sticking to the bad dishes hoping that they get better. We end up with our hearts broken ( we're talking about love now), because we find it hard to accept that what we feel for a person may not be love at all, or that that person may actually be bad for us. We have such set (and romantic!) ideas about love and what it should be that it's hard for us to let things be. We want so much for things to work out. Most of us become hopeless romantics and passionate in the wrong way and about the wrong things. I had been bruised a couple of times myself. But when I say I'm pragmatic about love now, it doesn't mean that I don't dream about shooting stars and weak knees. I do. I just don't want to sell myself short.
   
       So when someone comes along and it doesn't work out, you don't have to be afraid. Time is a precious thing. Why waste it on the lackluster, moping over something that didn't pan out? Why waste it on brokenness when we have the chance to meet someone who can make us whole again? Of course every one needs time to grieve when they lose something - like a relationship-but one must not overdo it. There's so melodrama - even if it may be tempting after a break up.
   
      Someone once said " There's no second chances in a single moment", I share her zeal for the present. I don't want to let days slip away. Life has so much to offer us if we only see with the heart. There's no time to dwell on difference, misery, and regrets. I find reason to set out and live my life even as I am searching for that perfect "dish" ( and no, this is not a lame excuse to see other boys or a mere bouncing-back-after-a-heartbreak-campaign).
   
     My purpose is simple. I want to reach out to those who feel the mundaneness of life without the heart. Find your heart and set forth. Life may deal you a harsh hand sometimes, but bounce back. The world is waiting. :-)